“But you look so young”. Just one of the many comments I hear when I tell people I have two daughters. Along with “you don’t look old enough”, “are they both yours?” and “oh I thought you were their childminder”! (Yes someone actually said that to me at soft play.) So this ones for every single one of you who have made me feel judged for being one of those young parents!
The young parents who’s children were an accident
Ok so I didn’t directly plan either of my pregnancies. But having babies was always on my agenda! They were in no way an accident. I did not slip over and fall pregnant! I’m sure I don’t need to go into the birds and the bee’s.
The young parents who were irresponsible
Not that it’s any of your business but it was my personal choice to come off of contraception. Not because I wanted a child straight away but because I wanted to give my body a break!
The young parents who have given up on their goals
I may only be 25 but I am bloody proud of what I have achieved, and having two children has not changed that! Since leaving college I worked my butt off to have the things I did. At the age of 21 I had been promoted to assistant manager, driving around in a pretty much brand new car and had my very own little flat! I’ve stepped down for now to raise my children but I still have goals.
The young parents who are broke
Now I’m not saying we are the richest but we do ok. The girls never go with out and we have a lot of luxuries in life! All of that we have worked hard for. We do not claim any benefits (other than child benefit that everyone is entitled too!) and we privately rent!
The young parents who probably spend more time out than with their children
If we go out, we go out as a family. I certainly do not palm my children off to any Tom, Dick or Harry! The only people they have ever been left with is close family & friends and even that is a rarity.
Now I know I don’t need to justify myself to you, but I just want you to know how very loved my girls are. Oh and age does not define my ability to be the best parent I can be!
So next time you are about to make a comment like those mentioned above, just DONT!