Daydream Vs Reality

Ever since I was a little girl I dreamt about becoming a Mummy. It’s all I’ve ever wanted to do. I used to play Mummy’s and babies, draw pictures of pregnant women and create families all the time.

So I had a pretty good idea of how parenthood would be.

Or so I thought!

Daydream:
Baby will be born and when I hold her she will latch on and we will begin our breastfeeding journey together.

Reality:
Baby will be born and scream constantly until wrapped in a towel and handed to Daddy. She will then latch on about 2 hours later once we are cleaned up etc. She won’t suckle though!

Daydream:
Our first night home together will consist of snuggles on the sofa, watching TV as a family. We will then go to bed and wake up before starting out first proper day as a family.

Reality:
Our first night home together will consist of KFC for dinner as there is no time to cook. The only TV we will watch is what is on in the background as we get things ready for bed. It also consists of Daddy making an emergency dash to the shop to buy formula as baby is still yet to feed!

Daydream:
Every morning we will wake up and start a new adventure as a family.

Reality:
Every morning we will moan about being awake so early and how tired we are. By the time we are up, dressed and the bag is packed we just about have enough time to pop to the local shop!

Daydream:
Once Daddy goes back to work we will spend time going for lunch with friends and going to baby groups!

Reality:
Once Daddy goes back to work I will worry about leaving you to shower. All my friends are at work during the week and Statutory Maternity Pay doesn’t pay enough to lunch everyday! Also I won’t pluck up the courage to go to a baby group until baby is 3 months +.

Daydream:
We will take a walk everyday, either in your pushchair or your baby bjorn baby carrier. The wind will blow in my hair and I will talk to you about the world around us.

Reality:
We will occasionally be ready in enough time to take a walk before Daddy gets home from work. If baby is in the pushchair she will cry because the sun is in her eyes or if she is in her carrier I will be sweating from the extra body heat!

Daydream:
I will keep the house sparkling clean and dinner will be on the table every evening for when Daddy is home from work.

Reality:
I just about get time to shower during the day, let alone clean anything! The hoover will wake baby up or I will get half way through cleaning the bathroom when she will need me so I don’t bother doing it at all. Bleach on my hands would be bad for baby! One of us will eat dinner whilst the other occupies baby, we will then swap!

Daydream:
Our love for each other as a couple will be so much stronger!

Reality:
We are far too tired to even say I love you!

The daydream is such a beautiful, calm, positive image and although the reality is not as glamorous it is the most amazing thing in the world! I would rather have a happy baby than a clean home.

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