Little has been a big sister for over a month so I thought now would be a good time to talk about how she coped with a new baby. I wrote a post about how we prepared her for a new baby but I don’t think you can fully prepare a toddler for something like this.
Little is very intelligent little thing and has always been very independent. We thought she might have struggled with the attention side of things but as a whole we have been very lucky.
Our main problem is Little getting too over excited and often becoming too rough. There have been a few incidents with wandering feet, heads, hands, you name it! We spend a good chunk of our time explaining that Baby is very delicate (or “delicup” as Little calls her!) so we need to be gentle. Occasionally this falls on deaf ears but I think this is her way of dealing with the change in attention!
We seem to have a problem with our listening at the moment but I’m not sure its directly linked to Baby but more so the change in routine. She is such a creature of habit that I think she’s just getting used to her new routine now that I’m not working. It’s still early days and once we get out and about to more playgroups I think things will get easier.
For every problem area there are a thousand positives. Little is a very caring little girl and has a heart of gold. She is constantly cuddling her baby sister and saying things like “I love you so very much”, “we are just best friends!”, “you are so coot baby”! You can see the love and pride in her eyes in every photo of the two of them!
When Baby cries Little is the first one over to her telling her “it’s alright baby, big sister is here. I not go anywhere!” Unless it’s in the car of course where she’ll tell her “I’ve had enough of you now!!!”
We have tried to keep things as normal as possible for Little. We don’t ask her to be quiet when she’s playing in the living room because it’s her space too, we try to give her as much one-to-one time as possible and we keep her included in everything (even nappy changes!).
As a whole Little has coped very well considering she was the only baby in the family for over two years. As much as I don’t want to wish the time away, I cannot wait for the time where she can really play and interact with her baby sister.
How did your toddler cope with a new baby?! Any tips on keeping up this semi-positive behaviour?