finding balance

My Struggle With Finding Balance

This parenting malarky is no mean feat. I spend every day beating myself up about something. Yesterday was no exception! I had a list of things that needed to be done and realistically the only time that would happen is nap/rest time. How long did nap/rest time take? Over an hour and an emotional breakdown on my part. What’s the trick to finding balance? Go on enlighten me!

It wasn’t that long ago that I thought I had my s**t together. I was bossing this parenting two children gig. What was it everyone moaned about?

I’ll tell you what everyone moaned about. The stage where both children needed your all 100% of the time. And if not 100% of the time, 70% of my overlapping, alternate time. My girls would give the WWE tag team championship a run for their money!

Little is at that age now where she needs more stimulation. I can’t provide that for the 12+ hours she’s awake, 6 days a week whilst she’s at home! I mean I try. But then everything else slips! The washing baskets overflow, dust collects in the corners and toot accumulates in every room.

Baby doesn’t nap as much and is needing more entertaining during the day. She’s not happy playing with her own hands anymore. She needs stimulation too! Yeah she still has three good naps where I intend to get stuff done but usually thats when I’ll get ready for the day or I’ll sit down for more than 2 seconds.

So if I stay in, I feel bad on the girls. If we go out I worry that I should be at home keeping on top of the housework. I’m just constantly waiting for a new day to come and that’s not the way I want to spend my days.

I guess the point of this post is.. what is balance & where can I find it? I seem to be the only one on this journey to finding balance whilst everyone else is owning it!

6 Comments

  • Lindsey

    April 9, 2017 at 1:00 pm

    Oh honey, trust me you are not alone on this! But recognising that it can be a hard is the first step in trying to be organised I am mother to a toddler and i work and have housework and a cat and everything n between. I think maybe just take a breather, even when you can get an hour for yourself when the girls are asleep and then make a list of what needs to be done and list them in importance, just dont beat yourself up too much if it does not get done as long as the girls are happy and healthy that is what matters at th end of the day.

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  • Laura Delaney

    April 9, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    Oh wow, I can COMPLETELY relate to this and I’m so glad I came across this post to know it’s not just me! It’s so hard isn’t it?! I’m only able to do things when my daughter naps too, but when she eventually does.. I don’t want to spend hours cleaning and tidying my house! I need wine, chocolate and a back rub! Haha. I’m also caught in that trap of – go out, or tidy the house most days, if I choose to stay in and get jobs done, I feel SO guilty for not taking my children out. This motherhood malarky is pretty unkind to us. Don’t be too hard on yourself, I’ve been there too – many times! xx

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  • Jasmin N

    April 9, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    I’ve been on this mom-road for six weeks now and I haven’t found a balance. I really don’t know if I ever do. We’ve started learning routines, for the baby’s sake and I’m so flippin’ bad at it. Never had any routines myself. I guess that when we find the right path we’ll be able to get our shit together. 😀

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  • Devon Mama

    April 9, 2017 at 7:20 pm

    Blimey, I struggle with balance with one child so anyone that says they’re managing it with two is either a hero or lying as far as I’m concerned! I think you just have to make your peace with the fact that you can’t give them both all the attention and that you’re doing your best. I believe balance is one of those elusive things we never truly find!

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