Please Don’t Tell Me I’m ‘Just Lucky’

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My baby sleeps through. There I said it!

It’s something I am always so cautious to say out loud because I don’t want to be seen to be bragging. But I’m fed up of people telling me I’m ‘just lucky‘.

It would be nice if I could take some of the credit. You know like it’s got something to do with my parenting!

Now I’m not saying it’s the parents fault if their child doesn’t sleep through. Nor am I saying that I’m a better parent because my baby does.

I’m just saying it would be nice if we could praise each other on our parenting instead of telling each other ‘you got lucky!’

I know it’s so easy to judge and boy I’ve been guilty of it in the past. But can’t we just build each other up as parents? Turn everything into a positive?

Just because my child sleeps through it doesn’t mean I’m lucky. I like to take some credit in making a calm and contented baby when actually it’s probably due to James being her Daddy! (He could sleep standing up, for 48 hours in a hurricane!)

My toddler is pretty well behaved. Don’t tell me I’m lucky. I’ve given her the independence to be herself but set boundaries. Of course she still has her tantrums and sometimes her attitude stinks.

Yeah my child eats her fruit and veg. She also eats chocolate, biscuits and sometimes waffles and beans for dinner! Does that mean I’m just lucky?

So my toddler potty trained herself. I don’t think I’m lucky. I think my toddler is an amazing little girl!

So please can we stop telling other parent’s they are ‘lucky‘. Please can we just start praising them. Building them up! Letting them know that we fully support them.

DISCLAIMER: I am not bragging. I’m just sick of people telling me I’m lucky! Yes sometimes maybe I am but sometimes my children nearly send me over the edge. Sometimes they don’t sleep, eat, play etc.

 

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15 Comments

  1. I think with all of it there’s an element of luck of the draw (as to who’s genes they get!! The sleepers or the non-sleepers!) and parenting skills. I have the lucky comment but then I know I’ve made it too!! I think it’s jealousy when I’ve tried as hard as possible to get my son to nap and he just won’t!! If I credit luck it’s far easier to swallow than the thought that he might just have inherited his energy levels from the postman (not his sleep loving parents!!!). Thanks for sharing x

  2. I have to admit I tell parents they are “lucky” all the time! I don’t mean anything by it, I think it’s just an off-hand comment that people say sometimes. Having said that, I don’t consider myself “unlucky” that my son doesn’t sleep through as I know it is normal and as you said, it’s not a reflection on my parenting, it’s just the way he is!
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    1. I’ve probably said it myself but when it’s constantly said it gets on my wick let’s all praise eachother! I love how you say you’re not unlucky ox

  3. I think a lot of the time it’s an off the cuff comment that has a hint of jealousy behind (I’m definitely a teeny bit jealous of the sleeping through) but probably isn’t meant to take away from your parenting skills. I know I’ve no doubt said it before to others, and by no means mean you’re lucky in a negative way, just lucky in comparison to me. If that at all makes sense. I wouldn’t say I’m unlucky to have a boy that won’t sleep through, so I agree that we shouldn’t say others are lucky to have a child that does!
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    1. No I totally get that! This was just written on a bit of a rant haha. I think this is exactly what I was getting at.. I’m no more lucky than another parent. We all have healthy children so we are all just as lucky ox

  4. I can totally see where you’re coming from on this, but honestly I think most of the time when someone says that to you they aren’t trying to be nasty or take away from the achievement, they’re literally just stating a fact. You’re lucky for the positive things (and generally those saying it are probably a little envious!) Well done though, it really is an achievement to get some sleep, I wish I could manage it *cries in the corner*

    1. No I do totally get that! It wasn’t just aimed at my experience but everyone’s. More of a let’s celebrate the small achievements because parenting is ruddy tough ox

  5. I wouldn’t take offence to people saying you’re lucky, as sometimes children are just different. I havef followed the exact same routines with both children yet they are very different – I believe therefore there is an element of ‘luck’ or at least child individuality. I often wonder what I would’ve been like as a mum if my child had slept through. Part jealousy and part wishful thinking!

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