Life completely changes once you become a mummy. Parenthood isn’t what you seen on the soaps. It is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year!
So many things in my life have changed and it takes some getting used too!
I have worked since the age of 16. I have never been without a job. I worked part time throughout college and have had a full time job since leaving college. So I have always earnt my own money. Being on maternity leave has been very hard for me, especially as I only get SMP which is £138.18 per week. It’s something, but when you have rent, bills and food to buy aswell as a car to run, it doesn’t stretch very far! It’s hard to adjust to having to budget instead of being able to just go to the shop and buy something you like the look of! It’s also been hard to adjust to not working, not counting down the days until the weekend! Not having adult conversation. It makes me feel kind of below my partner because I cannot contribute to the bills as much as I did.
I bought my first car just after my 17th birthday, okay it only cost me £825 but I worked hard to buy it. Then 2 years later I had saved up over £2,000 and I was lucky enough to borrow £4,000 off of my Nana & Grandad to buy a new car! I bought an 08 plate Vauxhall Corsa, I was so proud as I was just turned 19 and driving around in a newish car. I loved the independence of having my own car, going where I wanted, when I wanted! But it was only a 3 door, so we had to sell both of our cars to buy a 5 door. It’s hard to adjust to not owning my own car! Especially as I no longer work or earn my own money!
I spent forever trying to grow my nails from being a nail biter growing up! I finally had nice long nails and they were in good condition (I also went through the stage of having acrylic nails!). Then I became a mummy and now I don’t get time to paint my nails, but when I do they are not very long as I worry about scratching her, which I have done a few times (horrible mummy :()
I was really lucky and didn’t lose any of my hair, if anything I think it has grown longer! My hair is in better condition aswell as I don’t wash it as often which means I don’t dry it and straighten it as often as I used too. Before being a mummy, I NEVER wore my hair up! I dislike the shape of my face and ears, so I was always hiding behind my hair. But now, I don’t care what I look like, I wear it up most of the time as its practical and saves it being sicked in! And to tell you the truth, my hair being down irritates me!!
I’ve never loved my body, I don’t think any women does (but if you do, then go you!). But now my body has changed aand sometimes I look at it and think URGH! I have what is known as a ‘pouch’, stretch marks all over my tummy, hips and thighs and now my boobs are not a feature but a cushion! But then I remember exactly what my body did. My body carried a little tiny human being for over 9 months, gave birth to that human being and went through numerous sleepless nights! I think my body is amazing for doing that. I don’t see male bodys being able to do that!
So a lot of things have changed in my life, but I would not change them for the world! I have the most amazing gift EVER and no feeling will ever compare to that moment they hand you your baby! I would do anything to go back to that moment!!