Chances are if you are reading this you are either a parent or just want some “me time“!
This is one of the things I struggled with when I was suddenly responsible for someone other than myself. I totally lost myself and didn’t know what I enjoyed anymore. This made finding time for myself very hard.
I had this view that I no longer deserved time to myself because I had to give this baby my all. How wrong was I? Spending some time on myself did not make me any less of a parent! If anything it actually made me a better parent.
So here are some of my top tips for finding “me time” as a parent:
Use nap time effectively
Little doesn’t always nap but I make sure she has some quiet time in her room each day. This is when I do things around the house so once they are in bed that evening I can have my “me time” without worrying about the mundane housework! If I have no housework* (*read ignore housework) then I use this time to catch up on TV, watch youtube or just sit on the sofa without feeling guilty.
Establish a routine that works for you
Routine is key in our day. Not just for the children but for myself and James too! With a routine in place it means that everyone knows what needs to be done. It can be something simple! For example, I shower in the evening as James is home so I can take as much time as I like.
Sleep at different times to your children
Not exactly but let me explain. When Little was born I used to go to bed at the same time as her to get maximum amount of sleep. Sometimes I would be asleep by 8pm! Once we got into a better routine I would stay up after putting her to bed and paint my nails or read my book. Now with two children this is my favourite time of the day! If your children are late risers, set an alarm to utilise this time.
Share the responsibility
It’s okay to ask for help. If you have family or friends around take full advantage of this. Even if its just for an hour so you can do whatever it is you enjoy! Go and get your nails done, visit a coffee shop in peace. Sometimes just taking a trip to the toilet alone can feel liberating!
Write down all the things you enjoyed doing pre-children
Do not lose who you are. In the blur of sleepless nights it is so easy to forget what you did before having children. Documenting this can help spark more ideas and if you are like me you’ll love a list!
I love nothing more than spending time with my children but I also understand the importance of finding “me time”.
Is there anything you would add to this list?