Life completely changes once you become a parent. Parenthood isn’t what you see on the soaps. It is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks of the year. So many things in my life have changed since becoming a parent and its taking some getting used too!
I have worked since the age of 16 and have never been without a job. I worked part time throughout college and have had a full time job since leaving college. This means I have always earnt my own money. Being on maternity leave has been very hard for me, especially as I only get SMP. Of course I am grateful that I get something, but when you have rent, bills and food to buy aswell as a car to run, it doesn’t stretch very far! It’s hard to adjust to having to budget instead of being able to just go to the shop and buy something you like the look of! It’s also been hard to adjust to not working, not counting down the days until the weekend! Not having adult conversation. It makes me as if I am less equal in the partnership because I am not bringing in money.
I bought my first car just after my 17th birthday, okay it only cost me £825 but I worked hard to buy it. Then 2 years later I had saved up over £2,000 and I was lucky enough to borrow the rest from my Nana & Grandad to buy a new car! I bought an 08 plate Vauxhall Corsa, I was so proud as I was just turned 19 and driving around in a newish car. I loved the independence of having my own car, going where I wanted, when I wanted! But it was only a 3 door, so we had to sell both of our cars to buy a 5 door. It’s hard to adjust to not owning my own car! Especially as I no longer work or earn my own money!
I spent forever trying to grow my nails from being a nail biter growing up! I finally had nice long nails and they were in good condition (I also went through the stage of having acrylic nails!). Then I became a mummy and now I don’t get time to paint my nails, but when I do they are not very long as I worry about scratching her, which I have done a few times.
I was really lucky and didn’t lose any of my hair, if anything I think it has grown longer! My hair is in better condition aswell as I don’t wash it as often which means I don’t dry it and straighten it as often as I used to. Before being a mummy, I NEVER wore my hair up! I dislike the shape of my face and ears, so I was always hiding behind my hair. But now having my hair in my face irritates me and it is so much more practical if its out of my face!
I’ve never 100% loved my body (find me someone who does) but now my body has changed. My ‘pouch’ is just a bag of skin, I have stretch marks literally everywhere and my boobs are no longer a feature but a cushion! But saying that – I have found a new appreciation for my body. It carried a little tiny human being for over 9 months, gave birth to said human and survived the newborn haze.
So a lot of things have changed in my life, but I would not change them for the world! I have the most amazing gift EVER and no feeling will ever compare to that moment they hand you your baby! I would do anything to go back to that moment.