5 Life Lessons I Will Not Be Teaching My Children

5 Life Lessons I Will Not Be Teaching My Children

There is so much emphasis around what we should be teaching our children. Being the rebel that I am, I’m throwing caution to the wind and listing the 5 life lessons I will not be teaching my children – with good reason!

#1 Respect your elders

Age is just a number isn’t it? Just because you are older than them doesn’t mean you automatically deserve respect. Respect is something that needs to be earned. If you don’t visit my children they will not visit you!

#2 Don’t talk to strangers

I’ve written about this before and it is still something I will not teach my children. One day they may need the help of a stranger and I don’t want them to be too afraid to ask!

#3 Save money & spend it wisely

Whilst I do agree I also want them to live their lives. Yes save money but so they can spend it on the things they really want to do, like travel the world!

#4 Education is everything

Education is important but it isn’t everything. I don’t want them thinking their grades define who they are!

#5 Patience is a virtue

No, no it’s not. Patience means waiting and no one gets anything from sitting around waiting. You have to go out there and chase all the things you really want!

What is one thing you will not be teaching your children?



  1. Leanne
    May 10, 2017 / 7:29 am

    Funny, a couple of these are things I WILL be teaching my children!
    I will definitely be teaching my children to work hard at school. I don’t think that tells them that grades are everything, but I believe they SHOULD work hard at school! Education and knowledge is so powerful and they need to learn that hard work is what is needed to follow their dreams. Instead I would tell them their grades don’t define them but their attitude, hard work and effort does! I want my children to have a good work ethic. Patience is another. Patience is not the same as just waiting around for things to happen! I would instead teach them to seize their opportunities. But I think patience is such an important virtue, whether it’s waiting their turn, having patience with that autistic child who isn’t understanding, waiting for a wheelchair user or taking time with a dementia sufferer, patience is a wonderful thing. So I wouldn’t tell them not to be patient, I’d tell them to go for what they want and again, work hard and be determined. With you on the respect thing – I’ll be teaching mine to respect everyone, regardless of age!

    • Amy
      May 10, 2017 / 7:33 am

      Totally agree. I of course will be teaching them to be respectful and patient! I just meant the sayings are not sayings I will use. So although I will not teach them to respect their elders I will teach them that respect is something that is earned and how they can show respect. Instead of teaching them that patience is a virtue I will show them how to be patient and encourage them to be the same ox

  2. May 10, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    Completely agree with the respect your elders! There are a couple of occasion where I have had to say ‘you are the reason respecting your elders is non existent’ 🙁

  3. May 10, 2017 / 8:58 pm

    Very thought provoking, I hadn’t considered these old sayings and the relevance to my own kids. I think these sayings keep children scared of adults and teach them to put others first all the time when in fact most adults are trustworthy and they should put theiri own ambitions forward.

  4. May 10, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    Great post. I’ve always said that respect need to be earned and is not an automatic

  5. May 10, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    This!! I hate the respect your elders one as some older people are so effing rude! And I don’t want them to ignore all strangers either. Great post! x

  6. May 10, 2017 / 11:16 pm

    Oh my goodness this post is brilliant! I agree with all of these points. Of course I’d be encouraging my children to respect people & work hard at school & spend wisely but I agree! Respect is earned, grades aren’t everything & you have to go out and get what you want for sure. Just do it. Brilliant post! Xx

  7. May 11, 2017 / 6:24 am

    I love the aspect of number 5, totally installing passion and empowerment in to your children is key from a young! Age sitting around gets us know where, it is up to us to chase our dreams, don’t expect anything to fall into your lap.

  8. May 11, 2017 / 9:04 am

    I agree with all of these, I hate the idea of respect your elders in my eyes respect is earned. Quite often ‘older’ people are so rude towards the younger generation that they don’t deserve immediate respect.

  9. May 12, 2017 / 1:55 pm

    Number 1 is my biggest pet peeve – so many of the older people I come across are just rude! I’ve taught my two manners, but they know respect has to be earned xx

  10. May 12, 2017 / 5:35 pm

    I totally agree with these! I recently saw a post about not teaching children to share too which was interesting. They should know they can share if they want but they don’t have to just because some one asked.

  11. May 13, 2017 / 12:15 am

    As a teacher I could not agree more that grades do not define who you are. There’s so much more to a child and testing isn’t the way forward in my eyes!

  12. May 13, 2017 / 12:20 am

    Interesting. I’m afraid I have to disagree with you on a few of those. I agree that not everyone deserves respect, but as a teacher I see far too many children answering back to members of staff at times when it is inappropriate. In my opinion, there isn’t enough respect for other people in general, regardless of age. I think we should always treat one another respectfully; the world would be a better place for it.

    • Amy
      May 13, 2017 / 7:54 am

      This is what I mean. I will teach my girls to show respect to everyone regardless of age! There are certain people who deserve respect for the things they do such as teachers, doctors, nurses etc but it was aimed more towards those elder generation who demand respect when they do not give it back!

  13. May 13, 2017 / 9:35 am

    I do agree with you. All of these things do have to be instilled into them but in a more broad aspect rather than a this or nothing sense. Respect everyone and talk to strangers – just don’t ever go off with one!

    • Amy
      May 13, 2017 / 9:37 am

      Yes exactly! I’m going to teach them to respect everyone, be patient but don’t sit around waiting and just generally be kind ox

  14. May 15, 2017 / 9:08 pm

    Completely agree with all of these

  15. May 15, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    I won’t be teaching mine to eat their crusts or else their hair will go curly 😉 Great post!

  16. May 17, 2017 / 2:24 pm

    All really great points… Respect has nothing to do with age at all, and I especially think a lot of older people these days demand it when they don’t actually deserve it because they can be so incredibly rude!

  17. November 9, 2017 / 2:29 am

    These life lessons are all new to my ears, but I find these very interesting. Thank you so much for sharing these. 🙂 I learned new things.

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