#MummyMonday | First Time Mummy

I have linked up with #MummyMonday over at Mummy Bloggers. For the first week I’ve decided to speak about my experience as a first time Mummy.

If you know me you will know that I work in a day nursery that takes children from as young as 3 months old, so I have pretty good experience when it comes to caring for children. Well so I thought! Little did I realise that it was so much harder than I thought.

At work I had people around me where if it was getting too much I could hand over to them or if I wasn’t sure/worried about something I could get a second opinion. Once Daddy had gone back to work I found that suddenly I was all alone with this tiny, innocent, dependant baby who needed me.. all of me! Don’t get me wrong we had lots of visits from family and friends but once the novelty had worn off they soon died down.

I never imagined having a newborn to be so hard and lonely. I imagined meeting up with other mummies for coffee in my local Costa. Taking day trips to the park, spending days in the sunshine! The only thing I didn’t really think of is the fact I don’t actually have any friends with babies. So whilst I’m at home, all my friends are working full time!

I knew that with a baby came responsibility but I never really thought it would be so suffocating at times. Sometimes it just felt like too much effort to leave the house because as soon as she was fed and I was able to get ready it was time to feed again!

I hated feeling all these feelings. I felt like a terrible mother because I kept on thinking about the down sides instead of focusing on the good parts. And trust me there are many many more good parts. However once we started getting into more of a routine (once I started focusing on ways to cope with the things I saw as negatives instead of just thinking about them) things got easier. I was able to leave the house, I was able to do the housework and I was able to just sit and spend time enjoying my daughter!

How could I possibly be down with this cheeky monkey by my side every day?!

I know I’ve spoken about a lot of negatives but the positives ALWAYS outweigh the negatives. I get to spend every waking minute of every waking day with the most beautiful, amazing baby girl who never ever fails to put a smile on my face no matter how I’m feeling. No-one else has the power to cheer me up without saying a word!

I guess what I’m trying to say is, even when you think you’re not doing a very good job, you most probably are! Don’t be afraid to ask for help, it doesn’t mean you are failing.

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  1. July 7, 2014 / 7:47 pm

    This is the one thing that worrys me after she's born, all of my friends had baby's when they were a lot younger, they have 3/4 year olds now �� I know I'm going to feel pretty lonely when it all settles down after having her. I kind of dread it to be honest! who knows might meet some new people. If I remember rightly, Your only down the road from me if you ever fancy meeting up.. xx

  2. July 7, 2014 / 8:54 pm

    I recognise so much of what you have written in this post. It doesn't matter what you are doing, it is never "right". Just need to focus on how happy your baby is.

  3. July 9, 2014 / 4:40 pm

    Hi 🙂 what a lovely post. I too feel the same, most of my friends are all at work, but I have made so many others from classes and groups. I have twins and they are such hard work but you are right, the positives far out way any bad days!! Your little family looks so cute x x

  4. July 9, 2014 / 8:33 pm

    Don't be worried. Your daughter will be the only company you will need. Once I realised that I was fine! Just try and get out everyday because even the smile of a stranger can be comforting. But yes we will definately meet up once Baby E is here 😀 xx

  5. July 9, 2014 / 8:33 pm

    Yes I agree, as long as your baby is happy, you are obviously doing something right! xx

  6. July 9, 2014 / 8:34 pm

    Aww thanks lovely. I hope to find some friends from groups once I've settled in our new home, so fingers crossed!

    Aww thank you, I think so too but I am very biased hehe xx

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