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Tips For Finding “Me Time” As A Parent

Chances are if you are reading this you are either a parent or just want some “me time“!

This is one of the things I struggled with when I was suddenly responsible for someone other than myself. I totally lost myself and didn’t know what I enjoyed anymore. This made finding time for myself very hard.

I had this view that I no longer deserved time to myself because I had to give this baby my all. How wrong was I? Spending some time on myself did not make me any less of a parent! If anything it actually made me a better parent.

So here are some of my top tips for finding “me time” as a parent:

Use nap time effectively

Little doesn’t always nap but I make sure she has some quiet time in her room each day. This is when I do things around the house so once they are in bed that evening I can have my “me time” without worrying about the mundane housework! If I have no housework* (*read ignore housework) then I use this time to catch up on TV, watch youtube or just sit on the sofa without feeling guilty.

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Establish a routine that works for you

Routine is key in our day. Not just for the children but for myself and James too! With a routine in place it means that everyone knows what needs to be done. It can be something simple! For example, I shower in the evening as James is home so I can take as much time as I like.

Sleep at different times to your children

Not exactly but let me explain. When Little was born I used to go to bed at the same time as her to get maximum amount of sleep. Sometimes I would be asleep by 8pm! Once we got into a better routine I would stay up after putting her to bed and paint my nails or read my book. Now with two children this is my favourite time of the day! If your children are late risers, set an alarm to utilise this time.

Share the responsibility

It’s okay to ask for help. If you have family or friends around take full advantage of this. Even if its just for an hour so you can do whatever it is you enjoy! Go and get your nails done, visit a coffee shop in peace. Sometimes just taking a trip to the toilet alone can feel liberating!

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Write down all the things you enjoyed doing pre-children

Do not lose who you are. In the blur of sleepless nights it is so easy to forget what you did before having children. Documenting this can help spark more ideas and if you are like me you’ll love a list!

I love nothing more than spending time with my children but I also understand the importance of finding “me time”.

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(18) Comments

  1. Such a good post! I love having a bath whilst my husband puts out little one to bed! He’s happy as he gets to spend some extra time with him.

    1. Such a lovely time! My partner and I take it in turns to put one girly to bed each 🙂 ox

  2. Completely agree with staying up past your children going to bed. Otherwise your day is 100% children, I need that few hours in the evening to unwind and me Emily for a while.

    Emily / http://www.babiesandbeauty.com

    1. I’m exactly the same! That few hours is me me me and I don’t even feel bad aha! ox

  3. Love this post, it can certainly be tough at times to forget that as a parent, to have me time. So thank yo for the tips and gentle reminder.

    Lindsey
    http://www.londonmumma.com

    1. I found it easier once I started as I remembered how nice it was 🙂 ox

  4. This is a great post. My baby doesn’t really nap so I literally have no time to myself in the day, which is difficult. I’m hoping as he gets older he gets into a routine, but at 7 months we’re not there yet! X

    1. My toddler doesn’t nap and Baby’s naps are touch and go but I make the toddler have an hour of relaxing in her room everyday ox

  5. I’d add that its OK if all the housework doesn’t get done sometimes. I should be washing dishes and folding laundry right now. Instead I’m nursing a cup of coffee and commenting here! #bestandworst

    1. Agreed! My housework is the last on my list ox

  6. Mums Space | Tara says:

    Oh I so agree, I hardly get any time to myself and I know I definitely need it more because when I do get that bit of time to do what I want, it makes me feel so much better and mentally puts me in a better place! I think I need to ask for help a little more too! Great tips 🙂

    1. Yeah I just had to break the initial barrier and find time for myself 🙂 ox

  7. My daughter is eight months old and I’m finally starting to find me time again! Thank goodness! Great tips x

    1. It took me a while too! But so nice when we do ox

  8. Great tips! I’m 9 months in after having my second child and can wholeheartedly agree that it’s so easy to lose your own time with a baby! But, it’s so important to look after yourself as well as others. I love to have my nails done once a month x

    1. My once a month is my eyebrows 🙂 couldn’t not have them down and it’s nice to still be me ox

  9. It’s so important to make time to really breathe and be, isn’t it. To consistently give our best, we need to be nurtured too, to be at our best as much as possible. Good tips. 🙂 #UKParentBloggers

    1. Very well put ox

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