Will I Know When My Baby Days Are Over?

Will I Know When My Baby Days Are Over?

As a child I would forever be creating families in whatever game I played. They would always be big families too. Not quite the Radford family but you get the picture! Then in the throes of the baby days that completely changed. I wasn’t even sure I’d have another.

But then S became a toddler and L joined our family. Things completely changed!

I know that I am 99% sure I am not done having children. Some days I want to wait until both girls are at school, others I want a really small age gap! So I have no definite plans to extend our family at the moment I just have this feeling that my baby days aren’t over yet!

I cannot imagine never feeling a baby of mine, move around inside me. Or never visiting the midwife again!

I cannot imagine never preparing for our new arrival! Or having that euphoric feeling when my baby is placed in my arms for the first time.

I cannot imagine never feeling that pride as I walk out those hospital doors with a tiny, squished up baby. Or introducing my new bundle to the rest of the family!

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One thing I do know is that I will 100% be team yellow if we are lucky enough to have a ‘next time’. Whilst I would be happy to be a girl Mumma all over again I don’t want to feel that initial prang of disappointment again. Plus if it is the last time then I want James to announce the gender to me!

So I guess what I’m asking is.. will I ever know when my baby days are over?

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23 Comments

  1. May 5, 2017 / 8:47 am

    It’s a really strange one. Before I fell pregnant I always saw uS having loads of children (4/5), but as I struggled through the first &a second trimesters I started to think this might be my only little one. now that this pregnancy is coming to an end I have definitely opened back up to having at least another one. We shall see!

    • Amy
      Author
      May 5, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Yeah it’s amazing how we are so forgiving for the pain/discomfort we incur to give life to our own little ones 🙂

  2. May 6, 2017 / 11:13 am

    Our baby days are definitely not over but it’s just not happening for us 🙁
    Good luck if you decide your days aren’t over either 🙂

  3. May 7, 2017 / 10:57 am

    I’ve just published a post exactly like this! For me I know I’m done but reserve the right to still feel sad about it!

  4. May 7, 2017 / 5:34 pm

    I feel all of these things! I can’t imagine not feeling those kicks again but I highly doubt we’ll have another baby which makes me really sad! Gorgeous post.

  5. May 7, 2017 / 7:54 pm

    See we have said no more, but now my youngest is turning 2 , like you I cant accept never being pregnant again, breast feeding etc. So I’ve not ruled it out…one day….maybe?!? Good luck with your next. Yvadney x

  6. May 7, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    There was a time when I didn’t think that I’d ever feel done. We were still in the never say never camp after we had our fourth baby. I couldn’t imagine never having another baby! In time though, we reached a point where we decided that we were done with babies and couldn’t be happier with the family we have. When you know, you know!

  7. May 7, 2017 / 8:14 pm

    My husband made the decision for us and when my son was three months old went and had the snip!

  8. Alyssa
    May 7, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    I’m not sure if you ever know. I would say we are done but there is this 0.1% of me that isn’t sure

  9. May 7, 2017 / 9:47 pm

    I don’t know, I suppose it’s different for different people. I’m pretty certain that I’m not done with one, but who knows how I might feel after baby number two, if we’re lucky enough to have another one.

  10. May 7, 2017 / 9:53 pm

    Totally relate to this in that I don’t think my baby days are over. I don’t mind gender-wise what baby I have, I just love being a mum so much I can’t imagine not having another. I think you’ll know when the time feels right xx

  11. May 8, 2017 / 12:19 pm

    I don’t think I’ll ever stop missing the kicks and I’m gutted I’ll never give birth again, but I know we’re done. In different circumstances I’d have wanted another two, but now that we’ve made the decision I look at the four of us and feel excited that this is us forever now. I do know what you mean though, I think you ‘know’ when the desire not to have more outweighs the desire to have more xx

  12. May 8, 2017 / 2:58 pm

    I think when people around you are having babies and you don’t feel even a little bit broody you know you’re done. I love it when friends have babies because I can have the squishy cuddles and none of the bad stuff ha x

  13. May 9, 2017 / 8:47 am

    Oh lovely, in my heart I am not done. I would love another. And I’m struggling with Little Mister H growing up too quickly. But my head knows that we are done. There are too many reasons for us to stop at two. Although it continues to break my heart. Hugs Lucy xxxx

  14. Jasmin N
    May 14, 2017 / 7:20 pm

    I might want two after D & that’s 100% it. Okay, I say that now but who knows when the time comes haha.

  15. May 14, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    I really resonate with this Amy, I feel exactly the same. Sometimes, like recently when we travelled abroad I thought ‘Oh there is no way I want another, it would be seriously hard work’ but then I think oh gosh I totally don’t want this baby to be our last, I want another newborn, another pregnancy and another addition. (I think) We’ll probably have one more in the future.

  16. May 14, 2017 / 8:29 pm

    I know I’m not done, but I definitely can’t manage more than another one. I know I’ll find out the gender again though, I need as much time as possible to get used to the idea if I’m having a boy.

  17. May 14, 2017 / 8:59 pm

    This really resonates with me. I have 3 children and would like 1 more but my partner doesn’t. I feel like I haven’t appreciated Zach as my last baby enough so my heart longs for closure

  18. May 14, 2017 / 10:48 pm

    Ah I so relate to this! We’ve got 3 but I just don’t feel like I’ve finished yet! I think I may be crazy to consider 4 kids but meh, we women want what we want! x

  19. May 15, 2017 / 2:52 am

    I would’ve loved a bigger family and happily had a third child, however I was very very poorly after my second was born (I got sepsis and couldn’t walk – was in hospital for 4 weeks). As a result we have decided we can’t risk having another. It’s hard accepting that this baby is my last but I am cherishing every moment!

  20. May 15, 2017 / 9:31 am

    I have always said that I didn’t want children and that changed because I had Jess once this happened I said I didn’t want her to be an only child which meant I had to have another one at some stage in the future. Now my partner has said that he would possibly like 3. I personally think that 3 is when most people feel done because that is the limit of having to change everything like a bigger car and house.

  21. May 15, 2017 / 1:45 pm

    I have 3 boys and when hubby and I got together we couldn’t agree on a specific number. All we did agree was that we wouldn’t have odds. So I guess we will be having another. Just not sure when 🙂

  22. May 15, 2017 / 3:05 pm

    I really don’t know. This is something I always wonder, maybe no matter how many we have we will always hanker to hold a newborn again.

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